Another fantastic self-help book read. Identifying that I am an emotionally sensitive person is important in the process of accepting who I am. This book, though it is rather general, challenges the individual to treat themselves with self-respect and accept their emotions for what they are. There is a lot of mindfulness talk in this book about feeling things, identifying that emotion, and letting it go. There are exercises throughout the book and also at the end of every chapter. I did not spend the time to do a lot of the exercises but the ones I did do were really good. A good book that I will recommend to people that are overly sensitive to themselves and to what others think of them.
Wow, I must buy a copy of this book. I can see myself revisiting this book many times in the future. I thought I was a decent listener but after reading this book I think I am a horrible listener. So glad to get the information to make me become a better listener and person after reading this. The most important thing I learned is that most of the time people just want to know you are listening and don’t really care that you went through something similar. I’m hoping I don’t forget the tenants brought up in this book because they are going to help me in my relationships and in my careers.
Yes, this book has a lot of generalities, stereotypes, and it leans towards women having more a responsibility then men at times, but I still thought it was a good read and hope to use some of the information within when communicating.
Video review: https://youtu.be/gyjCZvmLhsw?t=1m9s
A great self-help and self-grounding book that reminds us how to act as adults and citizens in every area of our lives.
Crash Override by Zoe Quinn is a must read for anyone that operates a good amount of their life on the internet, especially content creators. Quinn takes us back to the beginnings of the #GamerGate harassment, what caused it, how it affected her life and her commitment to helping others overcome online harassment. Quinn first starts the memoir off in a very memoir like way by explaining her background and her love for gaming. Anyone in her age range, myself included, will be very familiar with the stories she shares about what the internet was like in the mid to late 90s and into the early years of 2000’s. I always enjoy this type of reminiscing, because, like the Felicia Day memoir, this gives the reader an equal footing with the author because they share so many of the same memories. What is important during this part of the memoir is that she does not gloss over the fact that she was not a perfect individual. Because Quinn is honest about her mistakes, it makes what she has to say about the harassment she becomes a victim of more sympathetic.
The next portion of the book talks about the actual abuse and harassment from her ex-boyfriend and how that turned into what is known as #GamerGate, as he mobilizes a large group of individuals to harass and hurt the reputation of Quinn. During this portion of the memoir, Quinn educates the reader with terms such as brigading, SWATing, and doxing. As someone that wasn’t completely unfamiliar with the terms used to harass individuals online, it was still nice to have a good refresher, and seeing those terms defined from the victim’s viewpoint. The most important thing to take away from her account of the harassment is that as internet users, we need to be much more critical of what we read, and not easily accept or share stories about the misery of others so lightly.
The large second portion of this book is less memoir and more about the battles facing her movement and company called Crash Override. Through her ordeal, with the help of trusted friends, she begins to help others navigate mob harassment. As she begins to contact companies and law-enforcement, it becomes obvious that internet harassment is something that isn’t being taken seriously enough. Most law-enforcement are ill-equipped to understand and take seriously harassment online, as even a judge tells her “just get offline.” Quinn, mercilessly tells the reader over and over again that the “just get offline” advice is one of the worst things to say to someone whose career and life is required to be online. She mentions that a lot of the prejudices that many people who are harassed are some of the same prejudices they might encounter at law-enforcement. Companies start to take her more seriously as time goes by and better ways to handle harassment in large social media companies pop up but there are still many that care more about their bottom-line and hide behind free speech clauses to allow harassment to continue on their platforms.
Near the end of the book, Quinn gives us some tips on how to navigate the waters of online abuse and harassment. What to do when we are a victim of harassment ourselves and how to respond when we see others being harassed. She points out many times in the book that marginalized individuals, the black, trans women, are the ones being harassed the most. Her main point when it comes to being an ally for people that get harassed often is to make sure you have consent to help and share their story. Sometimes, well-meaning people make situations harder for those being harassed by signal boosting the harassment even more. Each person deals with internet abuse differently and no one way is the correct way.
I thought this was a good read and an important read for anyone putting themselves out there on the internet. Quinn gives a lot of great tips on how to protect your privacy and how to go about navigating the online world. The cultural upheaval that came about from #GamerGate is currently being played out at the highest levels of government and protests around the country. A lot of the same thinking that causes the harassment online are the individuals that many are protesting against. The neo-nazis and white supremacists get their start with harassment campaigns online and this book helps shine a light on their tactics and thinking. The second half of the book did slow down quite a bit with a lot of the legality talk, but that doesn’t take away from its importance. A good read that I recommend to anyone wanting to understand online harassment.
The Big Fix by Tracey Helton Mitchell is a stand out read for me this year. With the opium epidemic hitting an all time high(no pun intended) I wanted to read something that gave me more empathy for drug addicts. I’ll be the first to admit I don’t understand drug users at all. This was definitely a blind spot in my life and I just wanted to understand these people more. By reading Tracey Mitchell’s book, I feel that I can better understand why these men and women turn to drugs in their lives.
The most important thing that I took away from reading this book is that most drug addicts are doing it because they either have depression or are in fact suicidal. Drug users are more likely to have been abused and have low self esteem. When the cost of heroine is so low and drug prescription companies get their patients addicted, heroine is now seen as an option. A lot of these users, like Tracey, just thought that they were suppose to be living their young adult in a party first mindset. They thought that they didn’t want to have no regrets and to live life to its fullest but doing that with drugs is a mistake.
Even though Tracey talks about some of the awful things she does while on drugs, she does not glorify her behavior. This book is focusing on her recovery and how she got there. She focuses on the things that worked for her and is extremely critical of the things that she finds a detriment to her recovery. She is also very critical of men in a lot of support groups, as a lot of them hit on the women. Tracey talks a lot about the abusive relationships she’s had with men and contrasts that with the relationship that she has with her current husband. Finally, the best thing about this book is just how much Tracey’s worldview changes once she has children. Her struggle with having children is another obstacle that she had to overcome and reading her story is inspirational.
At the end of this book is very informative information about addiction, treatment, and drugs in general. If you are looking for a more non-fiction read to just read the basics of addiction, maybe just skip to the end of the book for those parts. Great read that I highly recommend for anyone wanting to gain empathy about drug addicts.